Birthdays are for ... being with those you care about most. When you’re single and your family doesn't live nearby ... birthdays can be a little weird. Do you hope people remember and invite you to do something? Do you say something and hope they surprise you? Do you just ignore it?
Back a million years ago, in Arizona, I use to throw my own birthday parties. I started throwing them after I realized ½ the people I wanted to share my day with weren’t included, because no one knew how to contact all my different friends and acquaintances. They were GREAT parties. Held at my favorite Mexican restaurant, La Fuente. The owners closed the restaurant and let us take over. Those WERE the best of times. I moved back to California – and my family threw me two great parties.
Then came North Carolina. I’ve been on the road for three of the last seven years for my birthday. That first year was the toughest. I refused to sit in my hotel room and be glum, so I took a customer out for dinner – and then later told them why. I used the same tactic on the other two b’days. Each dinner and client has been special.
The three out of the four times I’ve been home here in Raleigh, I've been with a small group of friends.
Last year, I hid. I’m not sure why. I didn’t want anyone doing anything for me. I’ve never worried about age. I don’t EVER want to worry about my age – or be depressed because I’m another year older. That just seems … self-defeating to me. But hanging out at home on your b’day sucks. (for me)
This year, I’m throwing myself a party again - because then I can be with everyone I love (who lives in town). So tonight, about 20-25 of my closest friends will be descending upon Chez Mit. Since I haven’t won the lottery, or received my tax refund (earmarked for SAVINGS), I’ve asked everyone to bring their favorite bottle of wine or champagne (or any beverage they like) - for a tasting! I’ve also asked them to bring an interesting cheese and a few crackers -or- some fruit -or- some cured meats. And we'll "as-build" the party from there.
I’m hoping some of the guests will bring digital cameras. If they do, I’ll post pictures.